| Families have changed in the last several decades. Instead of getting married, many people are living together or 'cohabiting'. Some of these cohabitating couples eventually get married. Many of them break up. Very few stay together as cohabitants for long. | |
| Is cohabitation a good alternative to marriage? Is it a good way to 'test out' the relationship? Many researchers have looked into these questions. In her book Marriage-Lite Patricia Morgan reviews the research into the results of cohabitation, compared with marriage, and finds that marriage is much more than 'just a piece of paper'. Marriage fundamentally changes the nature of a relationship, leading to many striking differences. to read more look at the website below.... | |
http://www.civitas.org.uk/hwu/cohabitation.php
So read this today and it really makes you think!!! Why do people even want to just have "partners" why don't people want to marry anymore???
People now a days have such a phobia of marriage... i just dont get it.... this is my take on things.
People want to go along with the crowd they want to follow what everyone else is doing... So The World say "Why get married?? Whats the point???" You look at the statistics...Why do you want to go through that! It is obvious that people work harder to be with one another when they are married... its a reason to fight for your relationship and your family... I think people don't want to get married because its an easy way out if things don't work out!
When you have children though why would you want to put your children through the chaos!!! I think that marriage bind you together and children want to feel that security and safety! They want to know that the parents will be there through everything. How can you promise them that security when you are not fully into the relatioship yourself... If you have a mind set that the relationship will not last... well then it wont last!!! When you think of it if you have no problem committing to that person forever and want to spend the rest of your life with them then whats the matter about getting married...I'll tell you... It's because your not convinced that thats the person you want to be with! Also if the reason you don't want to get married is because you more benefits when your not married.. just think about this... The world is going downt the crapper... Benefits are goign to be cut anyway you dont need to get married for that to happen!!!
Now I know what your thinking... all this coming from the single mother and yes Im one of the statistics saying that people just being together with a child don't last.... but you know what that doesnt mean that I dont want to get married someday and give my child that feeling of security. I'm not saying that all of them end because I know some people that lived together for very long periods of time, had children and have gotten married..... BUT how do you know that your the very small %age that stays together??? how do you know that you will last??? can you promise you chilren that you will be together forever??? Just think about it for a second..... Why am I so against marriage???? is there really a reason for us not to??? Do I really want to be with this person and is that why I dont want to get married????
Again.... Everyone is different..... but as I said after I read this... It just makes you think.... Which is better??? Why???
