Male/ Female Role

Male and Female ..... Husband and Wife are equal.... one is not high then the other... and one does not have the right to rule the other.... They are best friends, partners, equals!

I do believe though that the man should support and provide for the home. As they say bring home the bacon.  I also believe that a women should stay home with the children for the mere fact that the mother should be the one to raise their children ... Children are influenced very easily and when they are home at least you know what they are being taught and how they are growing up.  You are the one seeing their first words, steps, crawls ect not someone else.  You are the one that can teach them morals and standards not someone else teaching them things you don't agree with.  Now totally understandable if parents can't afford to have both parents stay at home... but if you try and live withine your means and not above it then it is capable for one parent to stay at home.  Again, its understandable for people like me if your a single mother, I have the blessing to stay at home until my little boy is old enough and then I can go work but not everyone has that privilge.

Again..... Man and women are equal.

Child Abuse....

I have no clue how a person could beat there child.  I look at my own son and I could not imagine hurting him... I think that anyone that beats there children is a coward! They are weak gits that she be publically beaten and thrown in jail. 

I don't agree with children through that abuse the system and report false child abuse reports just because they have issues with their parents.... Becuase 1. it gives a bad name to those parents and 2. for those children that are being abused it makes it difficult for them.  Now those children that do that should be grounded for life!

Bottom line.... Parents don't harm your children they are innocent little people and there is better ways of dealing with them.. don't resort to violence! and Children just because you parents are telling you to do chores and grounding you and stuff you shouldn't report them to social services.... you might laugh but it does happen.... and there is a lot of problems that come from that!

Assisted Suicide

Now this is a touchy subject.....

Suicide in general is something that is raging at the moment ... Suicide rates are scary ..

http://chartsbin.com/view/prm

Found this website and cant believe the figures!!! Its frightening..... I know that religion says that if you commit suicide that will go to hell and so one and so forth.... BUT..... reality of the matter is.... You have NO clue what kind of state of mind that person was in. You cannot know what they were thinking or the desperation they were in to go that far.  SO for that reason we cannot judge only God can do that. 

But I will give my opinion on assisted suicide... Its also a nice way of saying commiting a murder. I do not agree with people assisting suicide... It is not your choice or your call to take someones life... even if you try justify it but saying "they wanted me to".... that line is just not going to cut it!  The only person that has the right to give and take life is God and thats the end of the matter.

As I said its a touchy subject so im going to keep it short.

Adoption.....

I am totally PRO adpotion.... I think it is great that people are willing to open their arms to these children.  All Children need to have a home where they feel safe, loved and can be a sanctuary for them from the craziness out there.

I know that it might be difficult and some children find it hard to adjust... But as the Lord says.... Love one another.... Just continue to love them be there and pray that hearts will be softened and the Lord will provide a way.

Now... on the giving up children side.... I could never imagine the difficulty that people face giving up a child.  I am in no position to try and figure out why people do... I think that people that give up there children for adoption must have a very good reason for it and it would be a difficult thing to do... So... I dont want to try and get into their frame of mind to try and figure it out.... everyone is entitled to their choices....I am just glad that they have taking this route instead of abortion.... I just hope that when they do give up there children that the child will be blessed into a loving home with parents who treat them will love and kindness!

Controversial topics a day!!!

So found a list of Controversial topics.... So..... From today until I finish the list I'm going to write about each one of them a day.

First one on the list is Abortion!

My feeling on Abortion are... I disagree with it! I think that you are killing a little baby... I know people say "Well... technically its not a baby its a fetus and its not a human being".... you know what I say to that??? THAT"s A LOAD OF CRAP!!!!! When I was pregant with Joey I could see his little heart beat on my first scan and that was when I was 6wks pregnant.... AND F.Y.I if it has a heart beat its living!!! If its living... ITS A BABY!!!!

If you really dont want a baby then there is other options out there...eg. adoption..... There are plenty of people out there that want children!  If you are old enough to have sex then you are old enough to handle the consequences of sex!!!!

I understand if some has been raped then that is a different story and I dont expect anyone to have a child of a result of a rape... so in those cases i think it is ok.

That is my thought on the matter.

Contravercial Topic!!!

The contravercial topic that I'm going to talk about is "Partners" vs Marriage

Families have changed in the last several decades. Instead of getting married, many people are living together or 'cohabiting'. Some of these cohabitating couples eventually get married. Many of them break up. Very few stay together as cohabitants for long.

Is cohabitation a good alternative to marriage? Is it a good way to 'test out' the relationship? Many researchers have looked into these questions. In her book Marriage-Lite Patricia Morgan reviews the research into the results of cohabitation, compared with marriage, and finds that marriage is much more than 'just a piece of paper'. Marriage fundamentally changes the nature of a relationship, leading to many striking differences. to read more look at the website below....

http://www.civitas.org.uk/hwu/cohabitation.php

So read this today and it really makes you think!!! Why do people even want to just have "partners" why don't people want to marry anymore???

People now a days have such a phobia of marriage... i just dont get it.... this is my take on things.

People want to go along with the crowd they want to follow what  everyone else is doing... So The World say "Why get married?? Whats the point???" You look at the statistics...Why do you want to go through that!  It is obvious that people work harder to be with one another when they are married... its a reason to fight for your relationship and your family... I think people don't want to get married because its an easy way out if things don't work out!

When you have children though why would you want to put your children through the chaos!!! I think that marriage bind you together and children want to feel that security and safety! They want to know that the parents will be there through everything.  How can you promise them that security when you are not fully into the relatioship yourself... If you have a mind set that the relationship will not last... well then it wont last!!! When you think of it if you have no problem committing to that person forever and want to spend the rest of your life with them then whats the matter about getting married...I'll tell you... It's because your not convinced that thats the person you want to be with!  Also if the reason you don't want to get married is because you more benefits when your not married.. just think about this... The world is going downt the crapper... Benefits are goign to be cut anyway you dont need to get married for that to happen!!!

Now I know what your thinking... all this coming from the single mother and yes Im one of the statistics saying that people just being together with a child don't last.... but you know what that doesnt mean that I dont want to get married someday and give my child that feeling of security. I'm not saying that all of them end because I know some people that lived together for very long periods of time, had children and have gotten married..... BUT how do you know that your the very small %age that stays together??? how do you know that you will last??? can you promise you chilren that you will be together forever???  Just think about it for a second..... Why am I so against marriage???? is there really a reason for us not to??? Do I really want to be with this person and is that why I dont want to get married????

Again.... Everyone is different..... but as I said after I read this... It just makes you think.... Which is better??? Why???

Gossip!

I wonder have the victims of gossip, gossiped themselves??? My answer... YES.... everyone gossips in some way or another.... I'm not saying its right, its just a fact! Problem is gossip gets messy and people say some really hurtful things when they think no-one will find out... but people always find out whats been said about them through gossip!  ITs a messy cycle! Did you know that 55% of men gossip and 65% of women gossip... I regretably admit that I have been in that 65%... BUT I have learnt my lesson and trying not to be apart of that statistic... I have seen how gossip can hurt and turn people very anger... I have been one of those people hurt by gossip so I know first hand.

I have also realised that people critisize others very quickly.... NO body is perfect... so what gives a person the right to critisize??? It unfortunetly turns people away from the church and sometimes those people never come back.... I think it is happening way to much... I like how Elder Bednar said that he would prefer if the chapel smelt more of cigerettes because at least those people are coming to church... But I find that instead of embracing people coming back to church people tend to speculate why they havnt been there in the first place... The Lord is the only one that has the right to judge anyone so lets leave that to him and just be friends with everyone!

As I said Im not perfect... but I think everyone needs to realise what they are saying.